Memang betul kata pepatah, berdiam diri itu lebih baik daripada berkata-kata. Tapi lain pula kesnya jika dalam hubungan, lebih-lebih lagi hubungan suami isteri. Bila terlalu diam dan memendam, ianya membawa padah.
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Tadi tengok WHI dekat tv3 topik yang dia bahaskan tentang silent treatment dalam pergaduhan. Which is setiap kali bergaduh tak boleh berdiam diri lebih dari 3 jam. Kalau lebih, pasangan akan tawar hati dengan kita.
3 jam yang dimaksudkan, adalah fasa cool down dari kedua belah pihak untuk fikir & beri ruang waktu hadam satu persatu. Selepas tamat fasa itu, salah seorang harus mulakan dengan perbincangan tentang punca pergaduhan tersebut. Bila tiada komunikasi, maka berlaku banyak implikasi.
Yes. Silent treatment sekejap saja. Not for weeks and days. If you feel the need to do that, just break and have that space. Come back if/when both are ready. Cakap memang senang. Just do it. Because once you start to think about it, baru you think properly, thoroughly.
Bila dah fikir betul-betul, you may realise that, actually, you don’t have to argue, you don’t have to feel this upset all the time. Or, you’ll finally see that the release from the relationship really is what you need. Relationship – lovers, friends. Be honest to yourself.
Why all this effort? Most people only know the value of someone or something when they’re on the brink of losing it, or have lost it.
Take what I say with a grain of salt. Diff people, diff relationships, diff dynamics. In a serious relationship, you wouldn’t just follow some advice you read online, a stranger no less, blindly. So, of course, OF COURSE kena talk to your partner/friend.
In a relationship, in ANY relationship, you know them best. You & spouse, you je tau dia cemana. You and bff, korg je tau perangai each other cemana. Breaking ANY relationship will feel bad. But some are toxic.
Kredit: @_relwitxh @YazminHussin
